5 Top Things To Do In A Crisis

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5 Top Things to do in a Crisis : Synopsis

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Be Part of the Solution Not the Problem

 Whenever there’s a crisis or problem, don’t forget who you are, your Identity and Destiny in Christ, remember you are children of Light not of darkness, you are NOT a troublemaker but a peacemaker

2 Corinthians 5:17-20 17 Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here! 18 All this is from God, who reconciled us to himself through Christ and gave us the ministry of reconciliation: 19 that God was reconciling the world to himself in Christ, not counting people’s sins against them. And he has committed to us the message of reconciliation. 20 We are therefore Christ’s ambassadors, as though God were making his appeal through us. We implore you on Christ’s behalf: Be reconciled to God.

From the above Scripture:  we are new creation in Christ, His ambassador and your ministry is reconciliation. 

You can bring light & life. To verify first the article you read and receive on the social media before passing on or sharing them on your FB, Instagram. You bring the message of Good News, message of hope, reconciliation of relationships NOT confusion or message of doom and gloom.

Be Thankful Always

 Having the spirit of gratitude brings sunshine, a positive conducive atmosphere of Light and Life.  

the attitude of gratitude is the best expression of your appreciation for all the things God has done in your life.  Whereas ungratefulness is pride, condescending the One who is in control, the One who Provides for all things.

Colossians 3:17 And whatever you do, whether in word or in deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through Him.

1 Thessalonians 5:18  Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus. 

Be A Learner

A disciple of Jesus is a learner, a teachable, humble person.  

The more that you read, the more things you will know.  The more that you learn, the more places you’ll go.  Dr Seus

Leadership and learning are indispensable to each other. John F Kennedy

I am always ready to learn although I do not always like being taught.  Winston Churchill

If you approach the world with the apron of a servant then you are allowed to go places that you can’t go if you approach it with the crown of a king. Jon Foreman, Switchfoot

Find Out What Really Matters in your life

PUT YOUR HOUSE IN ORDER …   Read Isaiah 38:1-3 , don’t wait for bad things to happen before you put your house in order.  Now is the time to appreciate your life, wife, family, the best people, best things that happen in your life. 

Remember the most important things are NOT things.

At deathbed, you will not say  “ I wish I had more time in my office”.  but instead you want to be surrounded with your loved ones. All material things become nothing or insignificant to you,

Transactional vs Transformational Relationships:  

Things you regret are NOT the ones you did but the ones you did not do.

The late Billy Graham when interviewed about his busy scheduled was asked: “ If you can turn back the hands of time, what do you really want to do?” With tears he replied, “ I would like to spend more time with my family”

Luke 16: Rich Man and Lazarus  , the story tells about the rich man who remembered his 5 brothers while he’s being tormented in hell.  The rich man apparently still care for his brothers despite the fact he’s already in another life separated from them 

Crisis situation is temporary

Psalms 30:5   Sorrow may last for the night but joy comes in the morning

Matthew 24:36-39

For as in the days before the flood, they were eating and drinking, marrying and giving to marriage, until the day that Noah entered the Ark and did not know until the flood came an took them all away, so also will the coming of the Son of Man be.

Note this important phrase “ they were eating and drinking, marrying and giving to marriage”.  This situation clearly shows that life would be normal, no more social distancing, with the image of crowds of people… at the time when Jesus is coming.

Normal time soon, this CoVid19 crisis is temporary,  everything will go back to normal, business as usual .

Normal- when people forget about God and don’t even care about Jesus coming again

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The Three Masks We Wear: Which one do you fit in?

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Brennan Manning’s book “Abba’s Child”  talks in chapter two about the impostor  in us– the protective masks we wear to serve as our defense mechanism against pain, heartache, shame.

We pretend  to be someone we’re not to cover up some weaknesses.   To project a good image of our self to other people.  We need this shield to ward off any judgement or attack against our person.

In addition we get a sense of pride and confidence from our valuable possessions.. branded clothings, expensive car, big house and a beautiful wife.

In a desperate attempt to make ourselves acceptable before God and others.  Brennan says  we hide our true selves and present an impostor to the world.   We cower and hide until we attain a mask of perfection and look good again.

Sadly, it is then that we wonder why we lack intimate relationships and a passionate faith—  here are some of  my  favorite masks :


1)  The Mask of  Superiority.

Zacchaeus was a man who hid behind a mask of superiority and power (Lk 19:1-10).    He was a corrupt, wealthy tax collector, distrusted and despised by his fellow citizens because of his collaboration with the Romans.

He lived comfortably by collecting more than what was due.   When Jesus came to town he dropped everything,  climbed up  a tree  and made a fool of himself for the salvation of his soul.

Like the Pharisees, some of us  display our spirituality by announcing  how much we give &  flipping a  Bible underlined colorfully.   We  pray like hell,  clapping,  speaking in tongues,  just  to be heard and seen by all the people.

Superiority is looking down on other people, treating them as if you are more important and valuable than them.  People attach their values on their possessions, wealth whereas we need to value people because God created them in His own image and He gave His life for people.

2)  The Mask of a Clown  .

Remember  Jim Carrey’s movie- “The Mask” where he was transformed from a shy, reserved person to a funny, smiley, strong & powerful being?   This is a mask of a happy, energetic, funny guy –  yet hurting inside,  hiding his weaknesses.   Laughing outside but crying inside.

3) The Mask of the Invisible

Okay,  this reminds me of Kevin Bacon’s movie – “The Hollow Man”.    Here, we  pretend to be invisible , hiding or keeping distance from people,  or maybe  trying to be a hermit  wanting isolation and privacy,  trying to live independently and loves individuality to the extreme.

He just want to watch and observe from a distance but not to participate…  he just come quickly to a party and eat, does not interact or talk much then leave.

But when he got the chance,  he loves  control…  domination, to do things without opposition, to lead, to talk and talk monologue.

Being anti-social because of our feeling of inadequacy, inferiority and our lack of education, wealth or personality.  Our sense of worth comes from Jesus who appeared in this world looking for you and me.

Psalms 139 speaks of God knowing our innermost being, we can’t hide anything from Him.   We should acknowledge the impostor(s),  and  remove the masks we are wearing  in His presence.   He loves and accepts us as we are far more than we can imagine, and longs to bring us into deeper, more joyful, passionate fellowship with Himself

Who were the 3 Wise Men? The Purpose of their Journey

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If I tell you the names and the story the 3 Wise Men — Balthasar of Arabia, Melchior of Persia, and Gaspar, do you know where they are from? From Armenian tradition. They were not from the Bible. The Bible did not specify the number of Wise Men either.

However, there were 3 gifts, gold, myrrh and frankincense which could be the reason many people believe there were 3 Wise men. But let me first call your attention to a specific verse below:

“4 When he had called together all the people’s chief priests and teachers of the law, he asked them where the Messiah was to be born. “In Bethlehem in Judea,” they replied, “for this is what the prophet has written:”  Matt 2:4,5

From the passage above you can tell exactly how these religious leaders and experts of the law showed their faith in their Messiah.  They knew the Savior they represent would be born in Bethlehem according to their Holy Scriptures.  But these religious people had chosen to stay in the comfort of their homes. Compared to the Wise Men who traveled a thousand-mile bringing their gifts… for what purpose?

The Wise Men’s Purpose

Here’s the story.   A delegation of Wise men from the East arrived at King Herod’s castle in Jerusalem.   Elegant looking, these Magi possesses extraordinary skills and knowledge in astrology, dream interpretation, sacred writings, magic, and religion.  

King’s special advisers could be their official title like those wise men during Daniel’s time in the Old Testament.   Along with soldiers to protect them from bandits, they had just trekked a thousand-mile riding in camels coming from the East (Persia or Babylon).

Using the Star as a GPS, or the present-day Waze app, the Magi traveled from the East to the capital city of Israel, Jerusalem.

Looking for the baby Jesus, the Wise men logically went directly to King Herod’s castle. Newborn king lives in King’s castle. Tired from the long journey, the Magi expressed their explicit purpose of visit, to WORSHIP the newborn king!

Upon arrival at Herod’s palace, they asked: “where is the newborn king of the Jews?” The reigning King Herod got distressed he didn’t see this coming threat. I think he pretended to be cool.  The Bible says “…he was disturbed and all Jerusalem with him.”  Maybe King Herod’s poker face hid his temper in the presence of his royal guests.

King Herod, The Great Insecurity

Let me explain. There are Six Herods in the New Testament.  Wait.  Thinking of a biblical name for your unborn child? Not Herod, please.   Don’t pick Judas either.  King Herod the Great was not a Jew but from the lineage of Esau (Arabs) not Jacob (Israel). 

He was a famous master builder.  He restored the Temple of Solomon and built many theaters, cities, palaces, and fortresses.   Herod ruthlessly killed those suspected threats to his throne. He murdered his own wife and he killed also several sons. 

So yes, Herod played along with the Wise Men when he called the chief priests or the modern-day pastors asking them where the Messiah was to be born.   In unison, the religious experts shouted “ In Bethlehem” plus they quoted the Bible reference text.  

That’s a place about 5 miles south of Jerusalem.  Not too far,  compared to the thousand miles trip by the Magi coming from either Persia or Babylon, the modern-day Iran or Iraq.

Worshiping with Gifts

Again what’s the sole purpose of their trip ?— v2 “to worship Him”.!!  Did those religious experts intend to visit their real King? Nope.  Maybe they’re afraid of losing their high paying job.   Herod treacherously met with the Magi secretly to decipher how old Jesus would be by then. 

Then he asked them to search the child, —“as soon you find him, report to me so so I can worship him too”.      The Wise men found the child Jesus on a house. No longer in a manger as depicted by many artworks nowadays.  

After they had heard the king, they went on their way, and the star they had seen when it rose went ahead of them until it stopped over the place where the child was. 10 When they saw the star, they were overjoyed. 

11 On coming to the house, they saw the child with his mother Mary, and they bowed down and worshiped him. Then they opened their treasures and presented him with gifts of gold, frankincense, and myrrh. 

12 And having been warned in a dream not to go back to Herod, they returned to their country by another route.” Matt 2:9-12

Herod was furious, he massacred the innocent children 2 years and under.

Who are the Religious Professionals?

Let’s go back to those religious professionals who stayed at the comfort of their job or home.    They chose to worship King Herod, instead of worshipping the real King.  To us, Herod can represent the comfort and convenience of materialism.  When a Christian chooses the god of mammon isn’t we become a disgrace to the God we represent?

Many religious leaders and pastors know the Bible well, but not teach well.   But sadly they did not walk that humbling 5 miles trek to worship a suffering Messiah.  Not walking the talk.      Knowledge of prophecy, revelation or tribulation, pre or post-tribulation could be impressive as pastors, preachers, Bible Study leaders, but character and the fruit of the Spirit are the higher standards.

 Being vulnerable is like unmasking our imposter self. In our relationships, the testing comes when people come into our sacred homes.  Maybe a good Herod could have prepared a banquet before he let go of the Wise Men. 

The gift of hospitality sometimes no longer happen in the ministry, especially when our leaders neglect to show hospitality to strangers.  (Heb 13:2). Inviting church people into our home starts with leadership.

On their visit to Jerusalem, the Wise Men sacrificed their time, talent and resources.   They made a huge effort traveling thousands of miles, several weeks on that dangerous, sandy stormy roads. Just for the purpose of worshipping the King and Savior. 

The Wise Men did not seem to be judgmental on how Mary, Joseph and the child Jesus look like as poor peasants.  They believed in that Star in the sky, their research, and their skill set. 

Nowadays we have the convenience of cars, air-conditioned church,  but how many miles or km will it take you to go to worship? What kind of effort, sacrifices or gifts you can offer to signify your love and worship?

The Challenge

Finally, consider Mary and Joseph- when God called them as instruments to give birth to the Messiah.   “Let it be to me according to your word “ Lk 1:30 They gave their all and trusted God for provision, the gifts of the Magi to name a few.  

During the end term of Mary’s pregnancy,  they traveled from Nazareth to Bethlehem  90 miles.   Later on, when Jesus turned 2 years old, they traveled from Bethlehem to Egypt (350 miles).

That is, to escape Herod’s massacre of the innocents.   Then when Herod died they went back to Nazareth coming from Egypt, which is about 400 miles.  (see Arthur Blessitt’s Miles Jesus and Mary walked, www.blessit.com).

Still, our modern means of transportation today — the high tech cars, the superhighways are incomparable to their traveling experience..

This Christmas time we may spend more time in the mall or shopping online as the reason for this season.  Celebration but missing the celebrant. We will never run out of excuses for going to church, Bible Study or in worshipping Him. Ministry is the overflow of our relationships with Him.

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My Model Best Friend in San Francisco

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— written by Cristina Ancheta


Malou was my model college best friend years ago in Manila Philippines.  She rose from the rank as our class President.  Not only was she smart but she was also one of the top ten most beautiful women in the campus.  I was dirt poor when I was in college.  Malou would often buy me hot meals in the cafeteria.  One time she even bought me a new pair of shoes.  Then next semester, she just disappeared.

Years passed by, out of the blue, a letter came from her saying she emigrated to Daly City, California USA.   She painted a picture of America as  land of prosperity  –“ fancy car, fancy clothes.”    Plenty of jobs and food.  Life is wonderful.   She said she would send me money so I can join her in the USA.  She also enclosed a photo of her boyfriend.

I have not heard from her since then.  I wrote her several times but never got a reply.  Life goes on in the Philippines.  Ruddy and I got married, had 2 children.   Took a YWAM school to serve the people living in the garbage dump in Manila also known as Smokey Mountain.    Door of opportunities opened up for  to travel in the USA for conferences, etc.     I thought of looking for Malou, but never really got into it.

In 2001, we joined YWAM Gleanings in Central Valley CA.    The ministry distributes  food to more than 40 countries around the world.  After seven years we moved to YWAM San Francisco to work amongst the homeless and the marginalized in the city.  I often thought on how I could find my best friend in a country so huge and vast.


Until one fateful night in San Francisco.  It was during our hot chocolate ministry one Friday night . We walk in the Tenderloin streets to engage the homeless and pray for them.  A whole colony of homeless were laying on the pavement adjacent to St. Anthony’s soup kitchen.  We came to our last cup and ready to head home.  But I asked my team to approach the “old Chinese lady” at the very end of the street.

It turned out that she’s a Filipina. We had a small talk and I offered prayer.  She refused saying she despise religion.  “You do not have much of a covering—do you need a blanket?” I asked.  She replied “yes” so I rushed to the YWAM base, grabbed a blanket for her.  She begged me for food.  This woman had no teeth, nor dentures so she prefers soft food, specifically rice and eggs.  So I told her  ” Drop by at the YWAM center tomorrow and I will cook for you.”

The next day, she walked into the door of YWAM , looking frail and wearing an oversized men’s tennis shoes.

At the corner I set the table for us,  the bowl of rice and eggs, cups of water and silverware.  We were about to eat, when she glared at me. “Are you Mockay? Are you my best friend?”.   Mockay– that was my childhood nickname and only close family and friends call me by that name.  I froze, I would have not recognized that this homeless woman was my long lost friend.  We hugged, cried and talked as if forever.

That was not how I envisioned our reunion.  My mind flashed back a picture of my best friend , the former beauty queen, lapping it up in success and luxury, not destitute and broken in the street of Tenderloin. Here’s  the woman who promised me the land of prosperity, the one who fed me, gave me a brand new shoes.  Oh, how the tables have turned.  I am now the one who is feeding her, handed her a blanket and hot chocolate all in the name of Jesus!

We both ended up in the land of prosperity, she in pursuit of wealth and happiness whereas I in pursuit of what I believe was a calling from God. I am so humbled and thankful to God because I could have been like Malou— destitute and broken, if not by the grace of God.  I am also thankful that I found her and now I have something valuable to offer her – I have Jesus!

Please continue to pray and support our ministry. Pray for wisdom as Malou and I reclaimed our friendship.  Pray for a powerful message that only God can give us a real sense of security and our only hope can be found with our Father in Heaven.  American dream, apart from God could be a nightmare.

Why Hallelujah Night instead of Halloween?

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Hallelujah Night evolved as a Christian alternative against the traditional Halloween celebration.  Halloween began as an ancient Celtic festival where they believed on the night of Oct 31 ghosts of the dead return to earth.   The Celts carved faces into vegetables such as pumpkins, squash or turnips to light up the way to their homes for the departed spirits. Also, witches and warlocks convene on this event to perform occult rituals, associated with Satanism or Paganism belief.

Halloween Commercial

Nowadays, Halloween commercialization in America annually rakes millions of dollars in the sale of candies or chocolates, pumpkins, and all sorts of scary costumes. Parents and adults rush to grocery stores buying candies or goodies for those innocent adorable children scrambling their neighborhood streets for the trick or treat.  Even teenagers or adults spend lots of money on their costume party and booze for this innocent celebration.

For millions of evangelical Christians, Halloween isn’t innocent enough but still a Satan’s holiday. So Hallelujah Night or Harvest Festival came as a Christian alternative. Redeeming the event by their purpose of bringing God’s Spirit of Light to vanquish the spirit of darkness.  Along that line, Living Hope Church in Newark CA believes in integrating Worship, Prayer, and Intercession on the Hallelujah night. 

Family-friendly event

Living Hope wants to avoid the scary part of Halloween entirely by transforming the event into a family-friendly event.  Attracting hundreds of kids and parents they decorate the entire facility with balloons, lanterns, colored lights. Along with lots of candies, games and prizes, trunk and treats, costume contests,  face painting, coffee, and chocolates. Costumes at Hallelujah night happens to be elaborate but not scary, also not restricted to Bible characters.  

Here’s what their church people say,  “It’s just a big, goofy, silly, fun time. We love it.”

Safe secure atmosphere

 Live gospel music plays on the background by the Worship team. While an offer of prayers, coffee or hot chocolate to people sometimes exudes a warm smile.  This safe secure event presents a great opportunity to build friendships with their neighbors. Maybe this opens up a way to share the gospel through them by their personal testimony about Jesus.   

Hallelujah night presents a more practical option than the trick or treat. Most importantly, the thought of being in the church can be safer than walking in the streets.  Better than children getting candies from strangers and its more just a way to keep kids off dark, cold streets. 

Barnabas or Barrabas: You can be either one of these

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Two opposing characters in the Bible came to mind while am praying for God’s message to the church this Sunday.    The Lord impressed on me that like Barnabas our presence in the church should always build, edify our brethren.  Or else it can be otherwise.

Barnabas was a Levite from Cyprus whose real name was Joseph which means “may God add/give increase”.   His other name was Joses which means “He that pardons”.  But the apostles called him Barnabas which means “Son of Encouragement”  (Acts 4:36-37).  This must have been his reputation and characteristic.  He has a heart to raise up and release others to ministry.  He sees the best in people, recognize their potential and empower them.   Remember how he treated Paul after his conversion when he tried to join the apostles in Jerusalem. 

Paul, whose reputation as a murderer and persecutor of believers understandably was rejected by the apostles due to fear and suspicion.  They probably thought he could be a spy.  But Barnabas took him before the apostles and vouched for him.  Later on, the church sent off Paul back to Tarsus, his hometown, when the Grecian Jews tried to kill him after he debated with them (Acts 9:26-31).  But again he searched for Paul and brought him to Antioch.   For a year they ministers together and taught great numbers of people (Acts 11:22-30).

The Scriptures portrayed him coming alongside Paul and later John Mark to help them enter into ministry.  Imagine what might happen to Paul and Mark without him.   It’s interesting that portions of the New Testament were written by  Paul and Mark but there was no book by him.   In Acts 13  notice “Barnabas and Saul” leadership tandem later shifted to “Paul and Barnabas”.   Yet he surely did not mind such change in hierarchy.   Like him, we can practice this ministry of encouragement in the church without the limelight.  By speaking words of life instead of death or criticism, we release the potential in people.   The Barnabas spirit edifies and builds up the church.  Such a kind of ministry is excellent.

Meanwhile,  Barabbas was a rebel, murderer and a thief  (Matt 27:16, Mk15:7, Lk 23:25, Jn 18:40). Sentenced to die, he was set free by Pilate the governor when the clamoring crowd asked for Barabbas’ release instead of Jesus.  Barabbas catapulted into an instant celebrity when the crowd chose him instead of Jesus.  The Barabbas spirit signifies those who rebel against authorities causing disunity and confusion in the church.   They steal our joy. Kill our spirit, our zeal.  They whine, complain and criticize anything under the sun.   The Barabbas spirit is not fun to deal with, it drains our energy.

The question is… should we emulate Barnabas who strengthen, encourage, build up others while pointing them to Jesus or be like Barabbas who discourage people, has a critical spirit, taking the place of Jesus in the heart of His Bride? Prov 18:21 says “Death and life are in the power of the tongue..”  Let us, therefore, chose to speak words of life…see the best in people, releasing their potential, discover spiritual gifts and talents to serve the King of kings.

Ex-convict Dolphy Jr Testimony: Son of a Celebrity turned to Jesus

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Recently, Living Hope church watched the YouTube testimony of Dolphy Jr at their Meeting. Dolphy Jr.’s testimony has brought encouragement and generated a lot of discussions in small groups. His amazing story circulated around to many people by word of mouth.

Living Hope re-played his YouTube testimony again. Thanks to Youtube (Showbiz Pinoy 03.31.2019).

“I love you, thank you for teaching me forgiveness.”

This was Rodolfo Dominguez Quizon Jr.’s “final message” for his father, Philippine entertainment’s comedy king, Dolphy, during his burial at the Heritage Park in Taguig City.

Quizon, 57, known in local movies as Dolphy Jr., talked on Saturday with interviewers on a morning show aired live from the wake at Heritage via TV5, the late comedian’s home network.

The message would have made perfect sense to televiewers who had gone to the wake on Friday night and participated in a service led by Bro. Eddie Villanueva of Jesus Is Lord Christian church. Dolphy Jr., an ex-convict, is a pastor of the church.

During the service, Dolphy’s third child in a brood of 18 was introduced as the “black sheep of the Quizon family.” He didn’t look the least bit bothered by the moniker as he told his story.

Clad in a white barong, Dolphy Jr. admitted that he was his father’s biggest problem. “I could tell that his health suffered when I was in jail,” he said.

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Dolphy Jr. got involved in a controversial arson case in 1981. That sensational arson led to the death of six people. He was imprisoned and drew a life sentence. Grateful that he only served almost 18 years.

He recounted his journey from son of show-biz royalty to heroin junkie, from convicted arsonist to Christian pastor. Click the image below:

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Avoid Unsafe Relationships

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From the book ” How to find relationships that are good for you and avoid those that aren’t “– Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend gave us fascinating thoughts and ideas on building relationship with the right people. One of the prominent voices on the books preface, Josh McDowell wrote “…Dr Henry Cloud and Dr John Townsend have given the Christian a very helpful tool for avoiding toxic entanglements and strengthening good relationships. I applaud them”. Here are some excerpts taken from the book:

God does not use religious terms and languages when he discusses people. He talks about how people treat him and others, and whether or not they get things done as they said they would. In short, he looks at someone’s character. We do not get a lot of training in evaluating character. We tend to look on the outside and not the inside of a person ( I Sam 16:7, Matt 23:25-28)

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We look at worldly success, charm, looks, humor, status and education, accomplishments, talents and giftedness, or religious activity. But then we experience the pain of being in real relationship with them, and come up very empty handed.

While there are many different kinds of unsafe people, many of them fall under three categories: the abandoners, the critics, and the irresponsibles.

Three kinds of unsafe people


Abandoners are people who can start a relationship, but who can’t finish it. Oftentimes , abandoners became victim of abandonment themselves. Sometimes afraid of true closeness, they prefer shallow acquaintances. Others are looking for perfect friends, and they leave when the cracks start showing. Abandoners destroy trust. Those they leave in their wake are apt to say, “I’ll never have anyone who will be there for me.” This is a far cry from God’s ideal, that we be “rooted and established in love “(Eph 3:17). And those who pick abandoners often become depressed, develop compulsive behaviors, or worse.


Critics are people who take a parental role with everyone they know. They are judgmental, speak the truth without love, and have no room for grace or forgiveness. They are more concerned with confronting errors than they are with making connections. For example, they often jump on doctrinal and ethical bandwagons (which are important) and neglect issues of love, compassion, and forgiveness. They often confuse weakness with sinfulness, and therefore condemn others when they have problems. Tends to point the finger outside, rather than at themselves. They often deeply love truth and righteousness.

Because they are good people to go for information. But don’t go to them for relationship, for their truth often comes poisoned with being judgmental.   If you draw near to critical people, you may find relief in their clarity of thought and purity of vision. But you’ll also find yourself guilt-ridden, compliant, and unable to make mistakes without tremendous anxiety.


Irresponsibles are people who don’t take care of themselves or others. They have problems with delaying gratification, they don’t consider the consequences of their actions, and they don’t follow through on their commitments. They are like grown up children. (immature?). John Townsend have a friend who many times borrowed money but never pay back despite those promises. So this is what he told him. “From now on, the word loan doesn’t exist between us– only gift. I know you mean to pay back, but you don’t change your financial habits enough to pull it off. So when you ask for help, I’ll either give you a gift, never expecting to see the money again, or I’ll just say no to the request.” Sounds crazy but it helped John a lot.

If you draw near irresponsible people, you may be doing the following:

—you pick after them

— apologize to others for them

—you make excuses for them

— give them chance after chance after chance

— pay for their sins and forgetfulness

—you nag them

—you resent them

Many irresponsibles are caring, warm, fun loving people. I like irresponsibles. They help me notice what’s going on in life today instead of being anxious about tomorrow. There isn’t a place in their head for tomorrow. They are often emphatic and understanding. But while I like irresponsibles, I just don’t trust them. The irresponsibles lack of dependability can cause us many problems, ranging from making us wait for her at a restaurant losing a crucial business deal because he didn’t get the documentation in on time.

….. so there you go guys ….. get to the book!!

What really matters in life?

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Dr Randy Pausch: A computer science professor delivers his “Last Lecture” at the Carnegie Melon University after being diagnosed with a fatal pancreatic cancer with 6 month to live. Tragic! His story has been viewed in You Tube many million times. He became an accidental celebrity. His lecture turned to be a bestseller book on his perspective not on dying but the meaning of life, overcoming obstacles, seizing the moment, achieving your childhood dreams. Check out the video below:

People on their death bed

People on their death bed won’t lament “I wish I had more time in my office!” per Steven Covey’s  book First Things First.   Should you wait to face  death before you could realize what’s really important in life?  What really matters ? When you begin to think and regret of those things you didn’t do,  those people you ignored or took for granted .. you  suddenly remember to cherish those moments with your child and your loved ones, maybe the beauty of nature, those dreams, those friendships, … they ALL seem more important and special even before than being busy in your 8 to 5, 24/7 job.

For sure, you won’t miss your toys – those prized golf clubs or your Lamborghini, 😀.. they lost value compared to those you care about.  Now you want to be surrounded with people you care instead of things.  Imagine those homeless people in San Francisco  found dead on streets due to  lingering illness– rejected and abandoned by their family.   What could be the feeling when no one visits you on your deathbed?  Nobody knows for sure when your time is up ( Luke 12:19-21 -19) .

Bucket List

A gripping movie “Bucket List” in 2008, starred Morgan Freeman and Jack Nicholson, both terminally ill patients who escaped from their cancer ward and head off to an adventurous journey  doing things on their list before dying. They  tried to race against time instead of dying with regrets.  Amazing.

Let’s move the scenario a little bit further, S. Covey suggested  we should picture ourselves attending a funeral where 4 of our friends or loved ones would give a speech about you. Because as you look closer into the coffin you saw that —its your own funeral! What do you want people to say about you in your eulogy ? How do you want them to describe you?

life minus love

The beauty of life revolves around relationships — the so called building of bridges, connecting with people, speaking words of kindness, loving and caring.  Life is beautiful.  Busyness is a great enemy of relationship.  We become preoccupied with making a living, doing our work, paying bills and accomplishing goals as if these tasks are the point of life. They are not. The point of life is learning to love – God and people ( Mt 22:37-39,Mk12:29-31 ) Life minus love equals zero, meaning nothing, empty.

In Luke 16 , go to this amazing story of the rich man and Lazarus. A disturbing scene shows the rich man being tormented day and night in Hades. Yet he begs Father Abraham to organize a missionary expedition to the earth. Even though he’s in tremendous pain, the story shows he still cares for his 5 brothers on earth. He appealed for Lazarus to go back from the dead and warn them of his consequences.  Don’t wait until you’re on your deathbed or until you’re in the other life to figure out that nothing matters more… first is your soul, the people you care about, the people Jesus died for. What does it profit a man if he gains the whole world and loses his own soul?

Align Core Values and Principles

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In the book 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Dr. Stephen Covey uses this illustration to demonstrate that our decisions should be aligned with our core values and principles.  In the reality of life,   a map maybe useful but having a moral compass showing the right direction is more beneficial.   Here’s an incredible story excerpted from the book as told by an ex-navy officer while on duty on the bridge of a battleship one dark and stormy night.


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Battleship vs Lighthouse

“Two battleships assigned to the training squadron had been at sea on maneuvers in heavy weather for several days. I was serving on the lead battleship and was on watch on the bridge as night fell.

The visibility was poor with patchy fog, so the captain remained on the bridge keeping an eye on all activities.
Shortly after dark, the lookout on the wing of the bridge reported,

“Light, bearing on the starboard bow.”

“Is it steady or moving astern?” The captain called out.

Lookout replied, “Steady, captain.” Which meant we were on a dangerous collision course with that ship.

The captain called to the signalman. “Signal that ship. We are on a collision course, advise you to change course 20 degrees.”

Back came a signal, “Advisable for you to change course 20 degrees.”

The captain said, “Send, I’m a captain, change course 20 degrees.”

“I’m a seaman second class,” came the reply. “You had better change course 20 degrees.”

By that time, the captain was furious. He spat out, “Send; I’m a battleship. Change course 20 degrees.”

Back came the flashing light, “I’m a lighthouse.” We changed course.

Lighthouse as basic truths

The lighthouse in the story represents basic truths about the world. Unchangeable truths. Truths represent solid values and principles. They hold firm. They are based on truth, and we ignore and challenge them at our own risk. Our decisions should align with our core values and principles. And that navigating life into these changing times will be quite peaceful. What we need is a moral compass— a guide that will always point to the true north. Maybe like the star of Bethlehem guiding the Wise Men to the Messiah.

The compass represents the eternal verities of life. We must develop our value system based on the “true north” principles. Universal belief in fairness, kindness, dignity, charity, integrity, honesty, quality, service, and patience exists. Think of the absurdity of trying to live a life or run a business based on the opposites of those beliefs. Deception, lies, theft, uselessness, mediocrity, or degradation, etc for sure doesn’t constitute a solid foundation for lasting happiness and success. No way. For the Christian believer, the compass represents the Holy Spirit who will teach us, guide us in all truth. The Bible says the Truth is a person. “ I am the way, the truth, and the life…” John 14:6