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How to deal with conflict


“Are you eat in?” the lady inquired after I ordered Big Mac, french fries and drinks at a McDonald in Australia.  A bit confused I replied:” Of course I’m 18, am more than 18 ..why ? What’s the problem?” The cashier’s puzzled face turned red while I frantically scoured my wallet for ID.  Glad that another customer came to rescue, clarified whether I would like to “take away” our food or to “eat in” the facility . “ Ahh okay,”

Two guys standing opposite each other are arguing about what they see on the floor. At one guy’s vantage point he insists the number 6 while the guy on the opposite side yelled its the number 9.!! They couldn’t agree with one another until a passerby mediated. “What do you see?” the quarreling guys asked in frustration. ” Gheez !!! You are both wrong, that’s a l letter “g” .

Hmmm.. so viewpoints are like lenses. These lenses form our environment, our education or life experiences. They determine the way we make decision.  If we can see through the lenses of truth, we’re solid.  I ‘d like to see  through the eyes of Jesus.  He is the Truth.  Anything we see different from the lenses of the Truth is a lie or a distortion.  Help me, dear Lord.

Unresolved conflict disconnects or separates us from our brethren.  When its resolved our bonding strengthens, our friendships grow stronger.

In Matthew 5 it says leave the worship altar  reconcile first with our brother or sister.  In another verse, we are told our prayers are hindered if we have unresolved conflict with our spouse.

Looks like we can’t worship God and ours prayers are hindered when we have unresolved conflict.  Sure I won’t be able to concentrate talking when a guy I offended suddenly appears.

Conflict happens, maybe you caused it, I caused it or the enemy caused it.  Yeah, maybe just blame it all to the enemy.  I believe conflict  draw us to be closer with God.   That’s why, I ask for  wisdom  resolving this, or else I want me or him to disappear.   But  Jesus way is to approach in private the one who hurts us and settle even if sometimes our pride gets in the way.   If ‘am the one causing the offense, I might find it easy to  apologize.   But its the other guys fault,  he should be the one to settle with me.

Oftentimes in the garbage dump I stepped upon  some pins or thumbtacks on  my gum boots.  Since its too small and difficult to find I’ll just ignore  the tickling pain when I walk.   Same thing when  I ignore or evade  conflict.   Its like pushing it under the rag thinking it doesn’t exist or it will go away while I carry the pain.

So we’re God’s ambassador representing the Kingdom.  We negotiate for peace because we’re given the ministry of reconciliation.   Therefore I should preserve peace and unity  in the Body of Christ.   However, the enemy’s role is to disunite, separate and disassociate us from the Body and… the Vine.   To be alienated to one another so the church becomes fragmented, weak and sick.   The Father of lies, deceiver, accuser of the brethren wants to cut us off from the fellowship … and even from the  source of life.

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